Proverbs 31:10-13.
¶ Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
Jermaine & I, back when we weren't high on baby poop.
As I come to a close of this week I am brought back to this wonderful chapter in the bible. The Proverbs 31 woman. Recently I have been watching one of my favorite YouTubers and how articulate she is as a stay-at-home mother, wife, and Christian woman. She describes so beautifully her love and desire to serve the Lord in her capacity as those mentioned above. She gracefully invokes patience and great exuberance in doing the will of the Lord in her daily mundane tasks.
So it is with so many of us as mothers, we sometimes feel so overwhelmed by the duties assigned to us that we become impatient or intolerant. I too have felt these emotions/feelings. The times when the children drive us crazy and we feel like we could just give them a good ole Jamaican spanking or when the finances don't meet the monthly expenses. It can be enough to topple so many of us over the edge or just about up the shoot, (wherever that leads).
So how do we navigate the uncertain, the mundane, or the everyday screams from our 5-year-old?
The first thing is to start with self. I begin with Me, finding my value and my worth. Proverbs 31 verse 10 says the woman was virtuous and because she was virtuous her price was far above rubies. I have to take care of myself first, turn to the Lord, and seek to make covenants with Him and to protect my virtue.
There are so many times we take on so much that it extends us too far and we begin to tear. I have learned to say 'No' at times and to guard my purity and my peace. We give, we love, and we serve, but we must First serve the Lord and then honor our duty to take care of ourselves.
What do I do?
I read my scriptures, and pray to the Lord for my husband, children, family, and friends. I ask the Lord to bless my husband in his daily work life so that he will learn the skills necessary to keep upgrading himself. I pray for my children, especially my 5-year-old, that she follows Jesus Christ, makes good choices, and that she will no longer be a parakeet. I pray for their health, but then I submit to His will always.
I take long relaxing showers. I lather my loafer, scrub my body, sing, and be happy in the shower. No matter how the baby cries, I trust that my husband has got her. It is ME TIME. Sometimes I even turn on some music so I cannot hear, (you did not read this okay). No revealing it to the spouses. We must retain the secrets. 😆
Organizing my chores helps greatly. Some days I get a lot done and some none at all. I find that when I write down what I need to do, I get it done and can check it off my list. A list keeps you focused on the most important tasks.
When I have long and hard days I cuddle up in my husband's arms and lean into his strength. We so many times forget their strength and arms that are there to hold us and love us. We are strong women and It can be hard for men to know exactly when we need to lean in and cry a little. Softness and gentleness are not weaknesses and do not take away from our strength.
The Proverbs 31 woman's husband can trust her when choices need to be made and the fibres he brings home are not wasted. He can invest in their marriage and expect fidelity and honesty. So often things can be hard and the first go is to grumble and complain about what is lacking. Being grateful for what is placed on the table and maximizing the resources can be to our benefit. I love to plan with my husband and make homemade rolls as well. He knows I mean him no evil and that all I do is to our family's benefit. We have burned quite a few rolls and even had hard ones, but we keep trying until we get them right.
My first batch of rolls could buss head, and my cinnamon rolls looked like they had rolls disease, (if you laugh at my rolls 😂) but I kept at it and got better each try. Like the Proverbs 31 woman, I willingly work with my hands to aid my husband and provide for my family.
Oh by the way it is cheaper than buying bread and takes at minimum an hour, after all, I am a penny pincher and a dime clincher. Next time I will share more about my crazy probably just near-normal family life.
*Warning* Ps. Please do not ask for dinner invites, you may just get diarrhea or worse yet something very unpleasant. 😁Love y'all. Okay, am outta here. 👋
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